Time to Talk Day Men’s Edition

Time to Talk Day is an opportunity for everyone to discuss their mental wellbeing and tackle the stigma that mental health is a bad thing.

But let’s face it, not everyone likes to talk about their problems – especially men. Men often communicate their stress through their behaviour rather than words. So, for this Time to Talk Day, let’s take a look at how men “talk” when they are stressed:

• Drinking more/doing drugs
• Feeling angry, starting fights
• Driving recklessly
• Isolating themselves from friends, family, and social situations
• Experiencing physical pain such as a sore back/headaches

It’s time for everyone to listen and take notice.

Perhaps without realizing it, you or someone you know is struggling. Take a look at some of the common issues below that can make men feel weighed down:

• Relationship trouble/breakup, divorce, custody issues
• Grief/bereavement
• Financial worries
• Addiction/gambling
• debt

Now is the chance to start the conversation and help someone get it off their chest . Most people feel more comfortable opening up when doing something.

Men -why not ask that mate to go for a walk? Or text someone who you have not seen in a while that funny video, or ask that mate to help you with a DIY job you have been putting off.

All these actions can save lives and make you feel better too.

Take a look at how you could start the conversation:

When and where

Its important to make sure you are somewhere you are both comfortable that enables them to talk and you listen.

Think about doing it when you are engaged in an activity

Men are more likely to offload when doing something. Perhaps you could go for a walk or even fishing.

It may be helpful to start by telling them you have noticed that they have not seemed themselves. No matter the outcome of what he says the fact you have shown an interest and care will mean a lot.

 Just listen

Do not feel you need to fill the silence or try to fix things. Offer reassurance that they are not alone.

Be prepared

If you are wanting to broach the subject with a mate then be prepared to offer them some information on where they could get help such as the Samaritans 116123 or reach helplines 85258.

Check in again

This can be a call, text or even arranging to meet up again.

Need help now

If you need urgent mental health support call Mersey Care NHS Foundation Trust 24/7 free phone crisis line 0800 051 1508   Free to call from both landlines and mobiles

The Help line is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and is available to people of all ages who need urgent mental health support including children and young people.

Need to offload to someone?

 24/7 support via phone –

Samaritans are there to listen and are available 24 hours a day 365 days a year call 116 123 for FREE

24/7 support via text –

Struggling to cope and need to talk you can text ‘REACH’ to 85258 for FREE 24/7 support provided by SHOUT